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04 March 2010 @ 05:50 pm
Talking To Dad  
The support that's come in from twitter, facebook, email, and especially all your wonderful comments on yesterday's blog tribute, have all been quite overwhelming. I know i'm not the first person in the world to lose someone, but your sympathies have meant a huge, huge amount to me. So much so that it all made me a little upset last night (the good kind of upset though).

So in return I wanted to offer this. I don't often draw serious or autobiographical comics, but last night i wrote this to try and put into pictures what i felt i'd lost. A lifetime of communication, represented by telephones.

If reading this makes only one person pick up the phone and call their dad, just to talk about nothing at all, then its worth it.

again, thank you SO much for all your kind wishes. lets next week go back to talking about silly stuff again.

(Anonymous) on March 4th, 2010 06:13 pm (UTC)

That's beautiful. It brings back memories of my own (again, in a good way ;-) ).

Take care, mate.

James Sharpejdsharpe on March 4th, 2010 06:25 pm (UTC)
Beautiful stuff, Jamie...I'm welling up...it's all so true. Take care.
fawnfawnfawnfawn on March 4th, 2010 06:29 pm (UTC)
i'm crying at work!...well, more like sentimental tearing up than an all out bawl...but really so lovely~

(p.s. i get the answermachine and pass to the mom bit too~)
(Anonymous) on March 4th, 2010 06:43 pm (UTC)
Beautiful and very touching. Quite emotional now. Hugs to you.

(Anonymous) on March 4th, 2010 06:47 pm (UTC)
your comic
My condolences.
Your comic is beautifully done. Made me tar up at work.
Jeffrey Rowlandwigu on March 4th, 2010 07:10 pm (UTC)
That's real nice, Jamie.
Smurfy Bstacebob on March 4th, 2010 08:08 pm (UTC)
Oh, Jamie *huge hugs* I don't even know my dad and I got all tear-y.
and other tales of melaurasubby on March 4th, 2010 08:16 pm (UTC)
Beautiful. Really well done Jamie.

Laura E.
Sarah McIntyrejabberworks on March 4th, 2010 08:34 pm (UTC)
Brilliant, Jamie! I totally love this, one of my favourite things you've done.
sandblind on March 4th, 2010 08:52 pm (UTC)
Beautiful and heartbreaking. Though I’ve never had a dad around to talk to, I can certainly relate to the (missed) connections with a loved one as important as this. Sorry for your loss, Jamie.
Kylefysh on March 4th, 2010 10:05 pm (UTC)
That was lovely - some really adorable jokes wrapped around a touching story.

I'm really sorry about your loss.
☆ Mz_Pink ☆mz_pink on March 4th, 2010 10:21 pm (UTC)
This is an amazingly cute and sweet comic.

Much love to you hun xxx
Rick Eadeseadesmust on March 4th, 2010 10:38 pm (UTC)
Beautiful and poignant, amazing work.
(Anonymous) on March 4th, 2010 10:51 pm (UTC)
Aaah - so sorry to hear this, dear. A tough time to get through. I don't think you should feel you have to rush back to being funny - let it come back when it's ready. If you also keep the cartoon going I think it will help you make sense of your feelings as well as get you through low times. And, as you say, lots of people have to deal with loss and grief: your cartoon can help guide them through it and feel less lonely. The best art engages profound subjects in accessible ways. xm (rowemag on twitter)
Kettle Whistlekettle_whistle on March 4th, 2010 11:04 pm (UTC)
Very much relate to the wish about taking more time out. I wonder if there's any watershed for that, I suspect not. Shortly before my Grandfather died, I mentioned this- and he said: "Well, I could always call you too y'know..." Wise old bugger. Good parents want you to live your life to the fullest, and from the heartfelt words you've written, it seems highly likely that you Father was exactly that.

To know that your child is out in the world making their mark and enjoying life is surely the best reward parenthood has to offer, and your Father was fortunate enough to be aware that his Son made a living by drawing pictures- a huge achievement in anyone's book.

Those differences you mentioned in the comic? It made me ask the old man, and the answer I got back was that it's a relief to know your kid is adapting to an ever-changing world, and becoming their own person. A Gardener enjoys watching his flowers bloom- that's the reward, a job well done. He doesn't waste his time wishing he had the same colour petals.

I think that comic would have made any Father proud.

ztoicalztoical on March 4th, 2010 11:05 pm (UTC)
Your post yesterday made me think of my dad who I lost just over 2 years ago....reading it made me cry but it really was that good kind of cry. This comic is really making me think of all the good memories - thank you.
Michael E. Higginsbairdduvessa on March 4th, 2010 11:21 pm (UTC)
i hate to sound like one of those men that says they never cry because they are too macho to admit it, but i very rarely cry, the only time i produce tears is due to a bitter cold wind, etc. but this comic brought a tear to my eye. It was beautiful.
Marc Ellerbyburnt_jamb on March 4th, 2010 11:28 pm (UTC)
A beautiful strip, Jamie. I agree with Sarah, this may be one of my favourite things from you.
Hope you're doing okay.
velvetiertroutvelvetiertrout on March 4th, 2010 11:29 pm (UTC)
That was so lovely dude. I had a little cry too...the good kind. Your bit about the answer machine was a "ditto" moment.

Thank you.
Philip M. Kim: View looking upyellow_p on March 5th, 2010 08:15 am (UTC)
It's fitting that something so lovely came from something so sad.

You and yours in my thoughts.
Stephen Wallerbruised_blood on March 5th, 2010 09:18 am (UTC)
Beautifully done, sir. And incredibly moving... I think this might also be my favourite thing that you've done. Very honest and brave, it's been making me think a lot since I read it last night. I hope it's helped you out too...

On a side note, I love Sarah's hat. :-)
angelilangelil on March 5th, 2010 10:21 am (UTC)
If there was a 'like' button on this site, I think it would have been clicked on by a lot of people.
TheWorldIsFinesenorfruitloop on March 5th, 2010 05:40 pm (UTC)
That actually brought a tear to my eye. It's wonderful, Jamie.
missmortimer_missmortimer_ on March 6th, 2010 12:41 pm (UTC)
I'm crying now, for your my loss as well as yours. And anyone else out there who has lost someone and wishes they had taken a little more time to show how much they cared.

All my hugs and best wishes Jamie.
Gary Northfieldmr_hillmonster on March 6th, 2010 01:47 pm (UTC)
Hi Jamie,

Really sorry to hear your sad news. That strip is very beautiful and moving and got me all welled up; that's a phone call no one can forget. From your posts it seems you and your dad had a great friendship and you have many fantastic memories to cherish.

If you ever feel the need to get out and clear your head, then don't hesitate to pop over and chill out at the Fleece Station, you're always welcome.

David Laskydlasky on March 7th, 2010 12:07 am (UTC)
a lovely tribute
I'm fighting back tears here at the Greenwood Public Library... Thanks for the comic, and for telling us about your dad in the previous post. I already talked with my dad on the phone this morning, but I think I'll give my mom a call later on...
bwaafluffy_doom on March 7th, 2010 01:42 am (UTC)
This is the first time a comic has actually made me cry.. I now understand what my friend goes through when she reads Jeffrey Brown..
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, reading the previous post and this one and to see the son he has produced he truly must have been an amazing man

Sunday Velvetandricongirl on March 7th, 2010 05:58 am (UTC)
that's a sad but wonderful comic
condolences to you and your family Jamie
Steve Cruisemagicsteve on March 7th, 2010 03:41 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry about the loss of your dad Jamie. This and the previous post just broke my heart, made me cry.
(Anonymous) on March 8th, 2010 07:31 am (UTC)
This is beautiful stuff. I lost my dad a long time ago and some of the feelings you write about still resonate with me. It's a beautiful tribute to your father. I hope that you can stay strong. Like myself you are probably always going to miss him but if you can remember those good times and funny times, it will help you through your grief (with a dose of some good strong hugs now and then).
(Anonymous) on March 25th, 2010 01:28 pm (UTC)
Peter, your inventor Dad
Jamie, I am thinking of you from Budapest, I liked your Dad a LOT and thought he was a pretty special parent!
We lost touch but need your Mum's e-mail through Chris at Facebook as my e-mail was hijacked by a Nigerian. Glad that "lentil" led you the right way and let me assure you taht one of your cartoons from 14yrs old is on my wall, here, in Budapest!! HUGS and my deepest sympathy Zita S.
(Anonymous) on December 31st, 2010 11:22 am (UTC)
Touching and nicely drawn. Now if only you drew Desperate Dan as well as this in The Dandy.
(Anonymous) on January 1st, 2011 02:46 am (UTC)
So so sorry about your dad, I understand I don't know you and all that but in the last two panels of the comic I bloody broke down and cried. And I've only ever cried at Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows like that. (Blimey that's a sad book.)
This year has been pretty awful for me too (Parents got divorced, Grandad died three days before Christmas) And since it's New years day it's kind of like leaving all that crappy stuff behind and into doing whatever the hell you want.
So happy new year :) I hope the next year is better for both you and me.
(Anonymous) on January 14th, 2011 09:24 am (UTC)
I recently lost my dad as well ..

Condolences to you..

I would like to put your comic on my Facebook wall photos unaltered.